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If you didn't know, two out of four parents are informed of my SM/scene involvement and the other two were once convinced of it, then unconvinced and now just highly suspect. The two that have full knowledge are my mother and stepfather.

They know when I'm running off to a convention, though I don't share the names of said events. They realize I'm "a little kinky" but totally not into bondage because "bondage kills". And they always, always want to know more. They know Phil's a presenter, too. And she desperately wants to see his website because "he must have one!" but his scene name is definitely one piece of info she doesn't need. Could you imagine? Oy.

I do my best to keep them informed at a level that makes them feel comfortable without giving them so much that they can get a good grasp on what is essentially my sex life. That's just effin' creepy.

I also think my mother has a very good idea that I'm not monogamous. Until the other day, we had never really talked about it specifically but she knows I have friends that are non-monogamists and I see nothing wrong with it. She's also been watching way too much Big Love and now it's on her mind. Take for instance, our conversation the other day in the car ...

Her: Wait. Do you and Phil do bondage?

Me: No. He goes into other girl's hotel rooms and does bondage with them and then I come in with the barrel and help him get rid of the bodies.

Her: He ties up other women?

Me: Oh, yes, all the time. He couldn't tie me up, bondage kills, you know.

Her: So you aren't monogamous?

Me: Huh?

Her: Well you just said he ties up other women!

Me: I never said we weren't monogamous.

Her: But you didn't say you were.

Me: I never said we were or weren't for that matter.

Her: He cheats on you?

Me: Of course not.

Her: Then you're monogamous.

Me: Right, because the definition of monogamy is my partner doesn't cheat on me.

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Date: 2009-04-15 11:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] julian-wolf.livejournal.com
Oh, am I ever scared of conversations like that.

I had a close relative casually mention that she reads my LJ sometime last year, and I know that the same side of the family saw me with a girl attached to me via leash in a Pride parade many years ago... I do not want to go there.

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Date: 2009-04-15 11:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] kathryntact.livejournal.com
Honestly, it's not THAT bad. It wasn't my choice to out myself to them but it happened and it's been nearly ten years at this point. It was very (very, very) hard for awhile but it sure makes it easier to explain my constant travel.

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Date: 2009-04-15 11:43 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] julian-wolf.livejournal.com
Yeah, that would be nice. I tend to blame my travel on my partners, or just leave out the fact that I'm going anywhere. (My parents live in another state and I have plenty of safe calls who know them if the worst happened.)

My parents are also way Xian and very not sex positive. They are getting better though, which rocks.


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