kathryntact: (teru fall apart)
kathryntact ([personal profile] kathryntact) wrote2009-04-15 07:27 pm

whistle while someone else works

If you didn't know, two out of four parents are informed of my SM/scene involvement and the other two were once convinced of it, then unconvinced and now just highly suspect. The two that have full knowledge are my mother and stepfather.

They know when I'm running off to a convention, though I don't share the names of said events. They realize I'm "a little kinky" but totally not into bondage because "bondage kills". And they always, always want to know more. They know Phil's a presenter, too. And she desperately wants to see his website because "he must have one!" but his scene name is definitely one piece of info she doesn't need. Could you imagine? Oy.

I do my best to keep them informed at a level that makes them feel comfortable without giving them so much that they can get a good grasp on what is essentially my sex life. That's just effin' creepy.

I also think my mother has a very good idea that I'm not monogamous. Until the other day, we had never really talked about it specifically but she knows I have friends that are non-monogamists and I see nothing wrong with it. She's also been watching way too much Big Love and now it's on her mind. Take for instance, our conversation the other day in the car ...

Her: Wait. Do you and Phil do bondage?

Me: No. He goes into other girl's hotel rooms and does bondage with them and then I come in with the barrel and help him get rid of the bodies.

Her: He ties up other women?

Me: Oh, yes, all the time. He couldn't tie me up, bondage kills, you know.

Her: So you aren't monogamous?

Me: Huh?

Her: Well you just said he ties up other women!

Me: I never said we weren't monogamous.

Her: But you didn't say you were.

Me: I never said we were or weren't for that matter.

Her: He cheats on you?

Me: Of course not.

Her: Then you're monogamous.

Me: Right, because the definition of monogamy is my partner doesn't cheat on me.

[identity profile] julian-wolf.livejournal.com 2009-04-15 11:35 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh, am I ever scared of conversations like that.

I had a close relative casually mention that she reads my LJ sometime last year, and I know that the same side of the family saw me with a girl attached to me via leash in a Pride parade many years ago... I do not want to go there.

[identity profile] kathryntact.livejournal.com 2009-04-15 11:37 pm (UTC)(link)
Honestly, it's not THAT bad. It wasn't my choice to out myself to them but it happened and it's been nearly ten years at this point. It was very (very, very) hard for awhile but it sure makes it easier to explain my constant travel.

[identity profile] julian-wolf.livejournal.com 2009-04-15 11:43 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah, that would be nice. I tend to blame my travel on my partners, or just leave out the fact that I'm going anywhere. (My parents live in another state and I have plenty of safe calls who know them if the worst happened.)

My parents are also way Xian and very not sex positive. They are getting better though, which rocks.

[identity profile] femmetron1.livejournal.com 2009-04-15 11:36 pm (UTC)(link)
Sweet. Ahh man, parents. I got 5 of them.

[identity profile] kathryntact.livejournal.com 2009-04-15 11:37 pm (UTC)(link)
Want a few more? ;-)

(double the icon-love)

[identity profile] femmetron1.livejournal.com 2009-04-15 11:39 pm (UTC)(link)
mmm.. NO THANKS! I think I've reached my parent-quota for this lifetime. Thank GAWD three are queer.

[identity profile] cocobuttr.livejournal.com 2009-04-15 11:37 pm (UTC)(link)
I was talking to my mom once about getting married to Lin at some point, and she said, "Well, you'll have to stop seeing other people then if you do that!"

Um. Really? I didn't know married automatically meant monogamous. The things moms teach us!


[identity profile] kathryntact.livejournal.com 2009-04-15 11:39 pm (UTC)(link)
No, no, no. You cannot have your cake and eat it, too!

Re: lulz

[identity profile] cocobuttr.livejournal.com 2009-04-15 11:42 pm (UTC)(link)
But it's my birthday on Saturday!

Re: lulz

[identity profile] kathryntact.livejournal.com 2009-04-15 11:43 pm (UTC)(link)
Aww, yay! Happy early birthday then!

Re: lulz

[identity profile] cocobuttr.livejournal.com 2009-04-16 04:22 am (UTC)(link)
Thank you!

[identity profile] dreamertheresa.livejournal.com 2009-04-15 11:50 pm (UTC)(link)
Heh. After my first Frolicon, Mike and I met my siblings and the mom for Easter brunch.

She wanted all the details.

I assured her she didn't, and then she wouldn't leave me the fuck alone about it.

So first, I went on about my corset and thong clad self skipping through the hotel.

"Wait... you were walking around a hotel lobby in JUST A THONG?!"

"No, mom, I was wearing a corset, too."

"But... you were walking around a hotel lobby in JUST A THONG?!"

"No, mom, I..."


"I give up."

So that wasn't enough.

So I gave her excruciating details of the dungeon, ESPECIALLY of the VERY ENTHUSIASTIC fisting scene we walked past. She went pale.

...and then my brother had to do a VERY LOUD, VERY ANIMATED reenactment for the whole damn restaurant. We nearly got kicked out.

I might see if he wants to go next year. Make it a whole family thing (well, mostly. My youngest sister is likely the missionary-only, white picket fence type). Yeesh.

[identity profile] kathryntact.livejournal.com 2009-04-15 11:51 pm (UTC)(link)
Wait, so ... uh. You, your sister AND your brother?

Well, hell, I'm there.

Add Mike into the equation and I'm in like Flynt.

[identity profile] dreamertheresa.livejournal.com 2009-04-15 11:53 pm (UTC)(link)
I hear you and my Daddy made out. I'm dreadfully jealous I didn't get to see it.

Maybe I can be held down and like.... made to watch the two of you go at it like rabbits or something.

That'd be hot.

[identity profile] kathryntact.livejournal.com 2009-04-15 11:55 pm (UTC)(link)
We did. It was super nice. And pretty hawt. (I want to do it again.)

And like, maybe while you're being held down -- uh, you can be uh ... by Phil!

So, yeah. After I move, when are you guys coming to NYC?

[identity profile] dreamertheresa.livejournal.com 2009-04-15 11:58 pm (UTC)(link)

...dunno about NYC. Daddy's been talking about it for a while. He's not been home to NYC since he moved down here in '92.

[identity profile] kathryntact.livejournal.com 2009-04-16 12:00 am (UTC)(link)
Then the fact that we will be there should totally sweeten the pot, eh?

I mean, just think about it. He can drive himself (and you) crazy seeing all of the family. And then we can help you both work it off. Heh.

[identity profile] feyrieprincess.livejournal.com 2009-04-16 12:19 am (UTC)(link)
I like your definition of monogomy

[identity profile] adpfromga.livejournal.com 2009-04-16 12:48 am (UTC)(link)
I think the definition of monogamy is when you FORGET the barrel.